Not sure if this is social worker speak for a royal pain in the you know what. Choose your own appropriate noun here.
We met for an hour and a half. Jupiter's teacher was not present because it was school vacation week, so it was me and the caseworker and the lady who did the developmental eval. The CDS caseworker is already in the process of writing an IEP for school in the fall. I gave her my eight pages of notes and advised her those were the concerns that I would like to see addressed in the IEP.
Jupiter is going to get two hours a week of specialized instruction to work on her social skills ( to enable her to get another childs attention by means other than throwing a toy over the divider at them), to resolve conflicts, and to tolerate a change in her routine. The kicker on this one is its a service they only provide during the school year. Which ends in June. So I'm not sure we're going to get more than three weeks of this specialized instruction. But, if nothing else, it will be on the record as being given for kindergarten so she can continue to have social skills assistance in kindergarten.
We're also being sent to the pedicatric neuropsychologist. If I were to try to get this evaluation independently, it would be very expensive and there would be a year waiting list to get in. There are sometimes drawbacks to living in a rural state. Even with the CDS referral, it's still a 2-3 month wait. So we're looking at late June or July for that. The caseworker says she can't include the fact that we're waiting for reccomendations from the neuropsychologist in the official IEP. I have no qualms about sharing that at kindergarten screening. The neuropsychologist will try to determine the lasting effects of early deprivation on Jupiter's emotional development.
Wednesday I have a meeting with the teacher in charge of kindergarten screening. (who happens to be the teacher I had for kindergarten way back in 1977. Which was way long ago. Ask Jupiter. Anytime she sees anything remotely antique she says "That must be from the 1970's, that's so old!" Thanks for that. There are also benefits to living in a rural state.) I need to determine the best way to get the right teacher for Jupiter. There has been a slight change in how they're assigning the kindergarten teachers this year. Otherwise known as, we have a new principal. Who wants to be personally involved in the assigning. Who I am afraid, if I go in and ask to NOT have a certain teacher who will not be a good fit, will not particularly care about that. So far, my request is phrased as:
Jupiter will benefit from having an approachable, nurturing teacher whoI know MOST of the teachers are well aware that Jupiter will need extra support and are willing to work with her needs. I also need to find out about accomdations for screening. Jupiter will do fine with screening. As long as she actually goes into the room. Getting her into the room will be the hard part.
regularly demonstrates to Jupiter that she likes her. Jupiter will
recognize and be made anxious by negative facial expressions or tone of voice,
so will do best with a teacher who is positive and appears happy. A
teacher who frequently raises her voice will not be a good fit. She will
do best with a teacher who recognizes that Jupiter's needs may differ depending
on the day and situation, and is able to be accordingly flexible."
So now I'm waiting for the caseworker to mail me more stuff to sign. I suggested that it would be okay if she faxed me the forms and I could sign them and fax them back. She's leery of that because of the confidentiality issue. Even though I assured her that I am literally in charge of all five fax machines and I sit all day and wait for faxes. Maybe if I write her a note and fax it to her :)